5 Dark Truths Behind the Dreaded “Discard”
4 – By the time the discard happens, the narcissist has typically already groomed new supply.
The tiniest perceived insult drives the easily offended narcissist to seek out other supply who is naïve as a young lamb. Don’t try to make rhyme or reason of it.
A simple comment such as, “Whew, I can’t seem to get caught up with house cleaning, I think I’ll look into hiring someone a couple times a month” is interpreted by the narcissist as, “You’re a lazy good-for-nothing who never helps” (even if your comment was innocent, they know they’re a lazy good-for-nothing who never helps and took your comment as a direct verbal attack).
The other alternative is that they don’t want you to spend money on a cleaning person, they want you to continue doing all the work so they can spend that money on themselves – and they want you to keep quiet about it.
Either way, while you’re on Care.com seeking a qualified housekeeper, they’re on various dating sites lining up your replacement.
Tip – replacement ≠ true love or fairy tales for the narcissist. Replacement = unlimited supply in the form of admiration, money, sympathy, and oodles of second chances.