5 Dark Truths Behind the Dreaded “Discard”
The Truth behind Most Discards
1 – Most discards are the beginning of the triangulation phase
…and the narcissist isn’t really ‘done’ with you yet.
In your mind, everything was going along swimmingly when out of nowhere, the narcissist became disenchanted with the relationship.
Suddenly, all the little things they first loved about you became the bane of their existence.
Then, the narcissist started dropping hints about other people who were interested in them. Perhaps a co-worker, someone they met at an AA meeting, or even an Ex.
Before you knew it, the narcissist began ramping up their Silent Treatments or started showing complete indifference toward your relationship. Try as you did, you could not gain back the narcissist’s affections. You became “damaged goods”, completely unredeemable in their eyes.
This is one of the blueprint routines of narcissistic individuals. As personal as it seems to you, it really is just a page out of their playbook. It’s narc code 18.2-248: the only way they can make you understand what a good thing you’ve lost is to make you feel like a total dud. Discarded people who feel like duds will most likely try to win back the love of a former partner because bad love is better than no love, am I right?
Tip – There is nothing more empowering to an injured narcissist than to have two people vying for their affections. Not because the narcissist cares about either of them, but because it makes the narcissist feel commanding and elusive…a real catch.